Last weekend, I was fortunate enough to be taken on a weekend cruise for my birthday by my aunt. It was a great mini-get away. The boat stopped in Freeport Bahamas for the day and we went to Lucaya Beach. I was LOVIN my bush that day and I let it hang out! I’d received many compliments from various people on the boat and I just knew my fro was #everything! So I’m hanging out with my aunt and her BFF, trying to intensify my tan when a woman walks up to us trying to sell us “island bracelets” (which I’m sure were made in China). She eyes my hair and says (her comments will be italicized):
“Looks nice, is that all you?”
I said proudly, “Yes Ma’am”
“Hmmm, I’d snatch up and perm that hair so straight…”
At this point, I did a double take because this woman had just complimented me and now she wants to snatch my hair straight. By this time my aunt, her friend, and I were giving her the ug-mug.
I said to her, “You most certainly would not…if this was your head you could but not mine”
“I don’t believe relaxers are necessary”
By this time my aunt’s friend was pretty annoyed with her so she told her that we were natural, and that was that and we weren’t interested in purchasing her goods.
“I relax mine…but I had to take a break from relaxers” She touches the back of her head, and lifts her wig and exposes the fact that the back of her hair is badly broken off and barely existent.
…People in glass houses will always throw stones!
Last week in the 2012 Olympic games, Gabby Douglas has made history twice over:
- She is the first African-American to win the all-around title
- The first American, ever, to win gold in both the all-around and team finals
Guess what folks were doing? Tweeting about about how her hair looked. Unfortunately a lot of this came from other black women. SMH!
This morning I heard an interesting interview on the Tom Joyner Morning Show between Jacque Reid and author of “Black Women Redefined” Sophia Nelson, about the controversial conversations in the black community about Gabby Douglas’ hair.
The author believes that all of the nonsense about Gabby’s hair from black women is the result of a history of low self-esteem.
I agree. What else could it be? This young woman did her country proud and people (black folks bought this up) choose to focus on her hair.
Nothing is going to change,” she said. “I’m going to wear my hair like this during beam and bar finals. You might as well just stop talking about it.
A two time Olympic gold medalist and a mature young woman!